tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post5638176309510672072..comments2023-06-24T04:21:05.007-04:00Comments on Me and Wee: Role-PlayAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16931708644621510904noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-57529472482431268032010-12-21T00:51:39.817-05:002010-12-21T00:51:39.817-05:00I'm glad someone else has had the same feeling...I'm glad someone else has had the same feelings I have been having. I think I will take your lead and relax a little more. It's tiring trying to do and be it all. Thanks for the post!Gillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09923513327876343628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-89808025621375945182010-12-09T22:59:59.428-05:002010-12-09T22:59:59.428-05:00I'm not a SAHM, but I think that both SAHMs an...I'm not a SAHM, but I think that both SAHMs and work-outside-the-home mom's constantly ask themselves "should I be doing more?" especially when they look at the people around them (or the people on blogs). I always have to remind myself that I don't know what goes on in other people's lives, what their passions are, how much help they have, or how happy they are. I constantly have to remind myself that the only thing that matters is what works for me (and for my family). Otherwise I will drive myself nuts trying to keep up with everybody else!!Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14329368015151415166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-38878385131385863462010-12-06T17:12:08.636-05:002010-12-06T17:12:08.636-05:00Oh, I like this post a lot. Here in France it is p...Oh, I like this post a lot. Here in France it is pretty much the same : you see more and more moms with great blogs, sewing their kids' entire wardrobe, cooking, only buying their food in organic stores, having new ideas all the time to entertain their children and driving them around to music/painting/gym etc. while also reorganizing their house. OH MY GOD, how do they do it ?<br />I am a freelance translator and after my daughter was born I did not work much until she was 6 months old (squeezing work during her naps), then she was away from home for two days a week, then for three, and this year I needed to work full time again, but I am always on time to pick her up and if she is sick, I can organize my time to keep her at home. So let's say I went back to work gradually. And I am happy with that! I realized this kindergarden time is wonderfull for her and I am happy with that.<br />Now that I really have time to work, I "feel" much more available when she is here.<br />I used to feel pressure to do things for myself too, and now that she is 2,5 years I NEED to do them, I go to a gym class once a week and see my friends much more. But you should do these things only when you really feel like it, as you say, how wise of you!Lorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11549193698519952080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-47503988383126655422010-12-06T15:23:11.536-05:002010-12-06T15:23:11.536-05:00My husband stays home with our 17 mo and I admire ...My husband stays home with our 17 mo and I admire how skilled he is at compartmentalizing his roles. He never (or very rarely) feels inadequate about not doing enough as a SAHD. I don't know if it's peculiar to my husband, or if men are just less prone to the guilt we women impose on ourselves. He is very focused on the fact that his job during the day is the care and feeding of a 17 month old. He has said on numerous occasions that if he does that well and with (nearly) his full attention he feels like it's been a great day. He just doesn't question whether he should be handcrafting our son's clothes or whipping up multi-course meals every night. I don't think he was born with that "keeping up with the Jones'" gene which makes him much more zen than I think I would be as a SAHP. I think if you are sewing holiday gifts by hand or making bread every morning because it makes you happy and it's fun for you, then that is beautiful. If you are doing it because of some self-imposed narrow and restrictive vision of motherhood or because you think it's the only way to prove how good of a mother you are than that is tragic. Life is too short to waste so much of your time and talent on things that sap you, rather than build you up. <br /><br />All of us mothers need to be more quick to show our flaws, to celebrate imperfection in our friends and loved ones, and to be more VOCALLY tolerant of different styles and parenting choices. You are doing that just by writing how you really, honestly feel and not apologizing for it. Keep up the good work :)Jessicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-68964375399874662402010-12-06T12:42:00.450-05:002010-12-06T12:42:00.450-05:00Amen Sister!
I've actually deleted blogs from...Amen Sister!<br /><br />I've actually deleted blogs from my reader that just make me feel plain bad. I think lots of them are phoney anyway...I mean something's gotta give for everyone. No one is perfect.<br /><br />Do you read Meg's Whatever blog? or Piece of Cake? I like these...high doses of reality mixed with family and pretty things.<br /><br />I don't always comment on your blog but I really like what you have to say:)<br /><br />AllisonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-24246508104061768172010-12-06T10:29:47.931-05:002010-12-06T10:29:47.931-05:00Love this post and the sentiment. Will be bookmark...Love this post and the sentiment. Will be bookmarking to remember this as a sanity check in the future ;)valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09843571142326144417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-26922249050821154422010-12-05T21:09:05.083-05:002010-12-05T21:09:05.083-05:00It DOES seem like all mothers battle with inadequa...It DOES seem like all mothers battle with inadequacy. I guess it's a never-ending war. I feel so much better after "me" time. As I mentioned; I used to think it meant doing something constructive in a traditional sense. And now, it involves laying in bed in the quiet or laying in bed and watching a cheesy tv show that only I like. I feel so much better after this time alone. The space and room to think or space out is such a treasure to me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16931708644621510904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-32509493117852305132010-12-05T21:01:10.513-05:002010-12-05T21:01:10.513-05:00I think all moms, no matter what they do, always f...I think all moms, no matter what they do, always feel inadequate at times. I just thank god that I've been given this amazing opportunity to stay home and focus all of my attention on my wonderful daughter (as if she'd let me pay attention to anything else, lol!). <br />Although I do struggle with my "free time" management. I often feel guilty that the house is never spotless, we are always behind on laundry, and well-balanced, sit-down dinners are few and far between. My personal passion is sewing and crafting, and it often takes precedent over household chores. But luckily I have a husband who doesn't complain about these things, and I definitely feel like I can be a better mother after I've had my "me" time.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06217364842322472452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-3974359768414794152010-12-05T20:54:56.817-05:002010-12-05T20:54:56.817-05:00Wow, that IS quite the rant. Interesting though! C...Wow, that IS quite the rant. Interesting though! Children are treated like accessories and not like people in several cases I've personally witnessed. That article makes me want to disconnect from modern society and live off the earth in a bubble where we can live our own little lives without being affected by anyone or anything. sigh.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16931708644621510904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-64590007145196899182010-12-05T20:08:55.865-05:002010-12-05T20:08:55.865-05:00Found it, it was in the Wall Street Journal not th...Found it, it was in the Wall Street Journal not the NYT. It's quite a rant.<br /><br />http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704462704575590603553674296.htmlSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422147072679821048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-27453047962133662762010-12-05T18:51:54.500-05:002010-12-05T18:51:54.500-05:00Hmm, I didn't see that article! I'll have ...Hmm, I didn't see that article! I'll have to search it out. That dinner sounds yummy to me! (I like both of those things a lot...mmmm) :)<br />And I also think every toy ever made is for 3 and up, thanks to legalities. I figure, if she can't choke on it or use it as a weapon it's fair game. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16931708644621510904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-6790051184140629932010-12-05T18:45:05.959-05:002010-12-05T18:45:05.959-05:00Did you read that NYT article recently that discus...Did you read that NYT article recently that discussed just how crazy things have gotten for moms lately? It made me feel a lot better. I will now take this time to proudly admit that we dined on kraft mac n' cheese and *gasp* canned green beans for Sunday dinner tonight and I let my 10 month old play with a toy marked for ages 3 & up made in China with out a second thought. We do the best we can, and we need to cut ourselves some slack and get some perspective =)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422147072679821048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-38406593461974094632010-12-05T18:06:09.412-05:002010-12-05T18:06:09.412-05:00Kelly, LOL!! I don't know WHY you can't gr...Kelly, LOL!! I don't know WHY you can't grind your own wheat...just do it while you are at the sewing machine whipping up all those gifts. Or perhaps you can whittle the gifts out of oak you cut down yourself?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16931708644621510904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3372531146997990912.post-15497438394324721082010-12-05T15:57:12.884-05:002010-12-05T15:57:12.884-05:00Such a great post! Blogs are wonderful to get ide...Such a great post! Blogs are wonderful to get ideas, but I, too, feel inadequate sometimes, since I'm not grinding my own wheat to make my family bread, while making handmade christmas gifts for everyone (including the mailman) while homeschooling my 7 kids. I work part-time and I love that I get to alternate my days with work and life with an 18 month old. And I am now learning that a happy Mom makes everyone else happy, too, no matter if the bread was bought at the store :)Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425600152565024160noreply@blogger.com